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Philip Banks Je Ne Sais Quoi
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ConnieTerwilliger Triple G
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Karyn OBryant Cinquecento
Joined: 23 Jul 2013 Posts: 561 Location: Portlandia-adjacent
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2019 5:42 pm Post subject: |
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Turned down a "non-paying gig" just today.
Occasionally I will do something for free. But it is rare, and it is on my terms. And it's usually for a cause. Or if my sister asks me nicely.
The trick is to know when to give a "no" that leaves the door open for future work ... as in, "It sounds like a really interesting project, but unfortunately, I'm unable to take on any non-paying work at the moment. If your budget changes in the future, I'd love to chat some more. Thanks again for thinking of me, and I wish you the best on your project." _________________ * * * * * * * * * *
Pretending to be other people since 1986.
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Bish 3.5 kHz
Joined: 22 Nov 2009 Posts: 3738 Location: Lost in the cultural wasteland of Long Island
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Karyn OBryant wrote: | "It sounds like a really interesting project, but unfortunately, I'm unable to take on any non-paying work at the moment. If your budget changes in the future, I'd love to chat some more. Thanks again for thinking of me, and I wish you the best on your project." | So... what you're telling me is that my usual, "Bugger off you cheapskate numpty!" is probably not the best approach? _________________ Bish a.k.a. Bish
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I will not feed the trolls... I will not feed the trolls... I will not feed the trolls... I will not feed the trolls. |
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Karyn OBryant Cinquecento
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2019 1:44 pm Post subject: |
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Quote: | So... what you're telling me is that my usual, "Bugger off you cheapskate numpty!" is probably not the best approach? |
In certain (read: most) circumstances, that is most definitely the best approach. Especially in a British accent.
Sometimes a more delicate touch is needed. The trick is knowing when, and for whom. _________________ * * * * * * * * * *
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Karyn OBryant Cinquecento
Joined: 23 Jul 2013 Posts: 561 Location: Portlandia-adjacent
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2019 2:01 pm Post subject: |
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This thread has got me thinking ... is there a difference in the way male VOs and female VOs deliver the "no" response?
In the wider world, a "no" from a woman might get her injured (if the rejected man happens to be a violent creep). This possibility can create a psychological minefield and verbal delicacy around saying "no." Does this show up in other circumstances where a woman must say "no"? Are my "not-exactly-a-firm-no" and Peter's "piss-off-and-don't-let-the-door-hit-you-in-the-arse" examples just illustrative of our gender perceptions of the "right" or "best" way to say no?
Just musing ...
PS: Yes, I knew you were kidding, Peter. _________________ * * * * * * * * * *
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Kim Fuller DC
Joined: 29 Jan 2011 Posts: 641 Location: Portlandish, Oregon
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2019 6:43 pm Post subject: |
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I'm filing "cheapskate numpty" away for future use. |
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Deirdre Czarina Emeritus
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Karyn OBryant Cinquecento
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Awesome, Deebs. _________________ * * * * * * * * * *
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